>I don’t need to change to fit within my industry. My industry needs to change to make everyone feel included and accepted
Well hold on a second. I don't agree that, when someone feels bad about something, it's everyone else's fault/responsibility. I and many others have felt excluded and/or different at times; the ideal response is to address those feelings yourself, not to blame other people.
It's not just her; there are many other minorities that can relate. It's not just her feelings; she's also talking about harassment and being denied opportunities.When you tell someone to keep their complaints to themselves you are actively perpetuating/enforcing the status quo. I don't know if that was your intent but you should be aware of how you come across.
>When you tell someone to keep their complaints to themselves
I'm not telling anyone this. I'm saying that feeling excluded is, in this case, a personal problem, not an everyone else problem, particularly when the author admits that the only reason she feels excluded is because her co-workers don't conform to her preferred racial and social characteristics. I (and I think most people) have been in the minority before; the important thing is to accept that not everyone else behaves exactly as you do. Trying to impose your preferences on everyone else is not the fair approach.
Well hold on a second. I don't agree that, when someone feels bad about something, it's everyone else's fault/responsibility. I and many others have felt excluded and/or different at times; the ideal response is to address those feelings yourself, not to blame other people.