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Quit Being a Cynic at Work. It's Holding You Back (wsj.com)
28 points by JumpCrisscross on June 11, 2024 | hide | past | favorite | 17 comments


Are we done with championing "authenticity", then?

For many, cynicsm at work is the authentic expression of their relationship to work: it's required to make the world go around and pay one's bills, but a lot of the work that needs doing isn't glamorous, efficient, stimulating, or enriching. It just needs doing, by someone who's willing to do it.

Being "a cynic" can indeed hold one back from other opportunities, but maybe those other opportunities aren't that appealing to the "cynic" either?

Is it okay for people to just be themselves, do what needs doing, and then go home to a life one prefers?


My take is:

Toxic positivity is just as bad as toxic negativity.

Cynicism seems to fall under toxic negativity, in that it presumes negative intent before even finding out if it's true.

I think the article suggests being willing to find out, and take a stand towards choosing to influence your immediate circle to be allies, comrades, amongst fellow "soldiers in the trenches together," rather than just assuming everyone's in it for themselves and therefore there's no point in giving effort to be human towards one another.

I do like what the author says at the end, that even if our influence may seem tiny and insignificant, that it has impact if we notice.

I do think cynicism can be cancerous. I don't equate cynicism with a realistic assessment of an actually bad situation (which is where toxic positivity will want to bypass, brush it under the rug, stick their head in the sand, etc.).


> Have we taken our cynicism at work too far? > In some ways, our bad attitude makes sense. Many of us made work our church, only to end up laid off, burned out or underpaid. Now we check out, do less, gossip and snark.

To me, this fundamentally isn't cynicism - it's burnout. Perhaps one could argue, cynicism is burnout on a longer time scale.

If you call someone a cynic, most won't really understand; mildly offended. But when you identify it as "it looks like you burnt out 10 years ago in that project at XYZ and never recovered". I really identify with that.

Humans are weird creatures and "undoing" internal narratives we've built for ourselves is very hard.

Largely agree with the rest of the article.


I agree with you, and so does the Mayo Clinic and several other authorities who all state that cynicism is a symptom of burnout: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in...


you should be a cynic without being cynical (that means be pleasant, happy and indifferent to the outrages of fortune you will encounter) and understand where your company is in the MacLeod Life Cycle:

https://www.ribbonfarm.com/2009/10/07/the-gervais-principle-...


> A Sociopath with an idea recruits just enough Losers to kick off the cycle.

Ahem. The preferred nomenclature is "Founder" and "Founding Engineers".


As long as corporate structures are set up to pit people against each other, the cynicism will be hard to abandon.

I understand that corporations rely on people collaborating and working together to generate output - but the onus is on corporations to set up the right structures, not on employees.



As an analyst, it's our job to find the cracks in the system, the broken processes and so on.


It’s hard to not a cynic when your company business plan involves some combination of perpetual motion and time travel.


The title sounded condescending. But the overall theme seems to be that we must not lose trust in others since it may be better for us professionally. I think it is also better for us psychologically.


I think people should be nice to people just to be nice to people, not just to get ahead in business.

And actually, as I said, in another comment, I think it borders on telling people they need to become sociopaths.


Is being negative ever an advantage? It seems we'd all be better off if we could be positive all the time.. easier said than done. The fact is, being emotionally resilient in the oppressive, adversarial, soul-crushing coliseum of the modern workforce is nothing short of a superpower that borders on a form of mental insanity. Unfortunately for the author, most of us don't have the luxury of insanity.


I've been doing this for 30+ years and have seen some shit. The cynicism is justified.


Tit for tat. Enter with an open mind, but don't be a punching bag.


Like anything else in life, you’re either practicing good habits or bad habits.

Hard work is a good habit. Wanna break out on your own at some point? Complaining about enriching sociopaths and late capitalism is not the best practice.


Cynicism is the opposite of sociopathy.




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