What kind of advice is this? You don't just "start a family." Having a family _should_ be the result of having a compatible mate, doing a reasonable amount of planning, and the willingness to set aside decades of your life in the service of your offspring.
It is especially not a solution to some kind of deep-seated existential/self-worth issues that OP seems to have. I also get the impression that he is either divorced or not on great terms with his spouse since he refers to her as "The Wife." If so, that would be a terrible environment to deliberately raise a child in. He's also 44 which is not too old to have children, but about a decade or two past the norm.
It is especially not a solution to some kind of deep-seated existential/self-worth issues that OP seems to have. I also get the impression that he is either divorced or not on great terms with his spouse since he refers to her as "The Wife." If so, that would be a terrible environment to deliberately raise a child in. He's also 44 which is not too old to have children, but about a decade or two past the norm.