As someone who's been coming out of a lot of sexual trauma from my early childhood, I feel it's important to take a multi-pronged approach to alleviating the anxiety & pain, psychologically and physiologically. For me, pelvic pain was a huge impediment to having a healthy sex life. Left untreated, it got worse and worse, to the point that I had constant pain my body. Now I am seeing a pelvic floor physical therapist who is teaching me how to relax the muscles, and a psychoanalyst who is helping me deal with reframing the traumas that got me where I am.

The Body Keeps the Score is a pretty good book that covers how much trauma affects the body in myriad ways.