Joe's behaviour is completely unacceptable. Her treatment at work like some leper again is unacceptable though some this could be attributed to awkwardness on how to broach the subject or if it should be talked about at all.
Two things strike me though:
Shots off of Justine's stomach. The best response I have heard from a girl in a mixed group when asked to do it was "I will do it if you do it first." It turns it from another girl doing shots on the bar to a weird group activity which is silly, not sexual. Obviously a straight up no would suffice, who cares what a drunk person says?
The second thing was how it went down. During a recent stag do a random girl walked over to one of our group and kissed him randomly without warning or anything. The guy pushed her away, recoiled in horror and said with a look of despair "she - put - her - tongue - in - my - mouth!?"
We laughed but seriously, we knew it wasn't consensual, if she went back in we would have pulled her away.
I feel this is the correct response to being jumped on. This or a loud no.
Not reciprocating, then questioning whether the wife would mind is not a no. Standing there awkwardly waiting for it to be over does not convey stop and it doesn't give friends an opportunity to come to the rescue.
Without a no the lack of participation can suggest hesitation. Asking about the wife perhaps reinforces this. "Oh so thats why you are slow getting into it. Don't worry about her." From the outside the lack of no and look of awkwardness could suggest this isn't something you do very often. Not that you want it to stop.
Justine is not at fault in the slightest. Joe forced himself on her. That said I wonder how differently things would have been if she straight up said no or even pushed him away.
It can be really hard, almost impossibly hard, to make decisions when you're suddenly confronted with a situation that breaks your understanding of a person you trust (especially a person who has power over you, and especially a situation that seriously violates social norms) - at that moment, you're intensely confused, with a big "WTF" blaring in your head, your brain is flooding with panic and adrenaline...it's not hard to understand freezing up and just making the small efforts that are all you can manage, while hoping that it won't escalate (even while it keeps escalating).
It would be great for everyone to be able to bypass that shocked paralysis and immediately push away their attackers, but it's not realistic.
In the US, at least, consenting adults are free to do what they like within reasonable limits, of course with a concession for obscenity while in public. There's nothing particularly obscene about doing a body shot in good company. Had it occurred to you that some might find it fun?
Two things about your "culture":
1. Why does your culture seek to prescribe sexuality in such a seemingly overbearing way?
2. Has your culture not yet moved beyond slut-shaming, which is irrational and harmful for all parties involved?
Does anyone know why Chrome font rendering sucks so hard. It isn't just this site. Boss passes me a design to make and more often than not we have to reject the designers font choice because of terrible rendering.
As far as I know Chrome still uses GDI for its font rendering on Windows instead of the much better DirectWrite API. Firefox, IE10 and so on are using DirectWrite.
I think the bigger issue here is they got married during the honeymoon phase of a relationship.
The first 6-12 month's of a good relationship are fantastic. Its exciting, full of lust and you get that lovey feeling with little effort.
However, as you get to know each other more and more the fire starts to go out. The relationship transforms into a deeper companionship. Where originally being yourself was enough you now need to make a small effort to show you care. Do something to make the other's life easier, or give them a small surprise etc. Instead of 'the fire' always being there you need to generate it.
People who don't make the effort get the feeling they aren't loved or start arguing or wake up one day and find out they are sleeping next to a friend.
I have been in a relationship for 9 years and am happy. There have been bad patches but it just takes a bit of perseverance to work through them.
I get the impression a lot of people expect a relationship stays in the honeymoon period or give up to easily when they hit a bad patch. I think it's a bit sad.
"The grass is greener on the other side." Some day's it is... but I have found if you go to that other side and give it a little while often what you originally had was better all along.
Using Coast now.. I really want to like it. Trouble is it is slow.. you click a link and sometimes nothing happens.
Also, i like tabs. I find a story on HN and just leave it on a tab for later and open HN in a new tab. Not sure how to do this with coast. Maybe create a bookmark? It is less simple than having tabs.
I wonder how many of these sites will still exist in 10-16 years time. Will gmail still be running? Will it be the goto email provider?
The thing that is most bizarre is they care so much about protecting the kids online identity yet they registered real names. What if the kid wants to use an alias? I find it all a bit odd.
I completely get keeping pictures off of facebook. This setting up a virtual identity.. its weird.
I agree that the one good thing this law has done is start a debate.
On the downside it is negatively affecting how you interact with websites. Often before I can even determine if I am on the right website I get a pop up message before I can continue.
Recently I was on a shopping site and I clicked no to the cookies thinking it would only stop tracking cookies. Was surprised when my cart wouldn't save. It is silly that this breaks the site's basic functionality.
If anything browser vendors should be doing more. I do not think this can be done via legislation though. I also think prosecuting websites is silly. If these cookies are so toxic the companies running the services should be showing messages.
For example. Analytics. Why is it that I need to "opt in" to this on every site with a pop up? Why can't I just click YES and be done with it when it comes to this service?
You could then have non-tracking cookies essential to the running of the service exempt from this law.
Despite the shakey study wouldn't this result be expected? The more time you spend on Facebook the less time you spend actually socialising with real people? Facebook doesn't have voice chat. Text messaging is unforfilling.
Facebook has a great number of uses but one thing it doesn't do is allow you to see your friends, or actually speak to them. Using their chat box, if anything, emphasises the distance between you and the person you are speaking to.
Facebook doesn't have the tools to help with loneliness. Then it makes it worse by showing how awesome everyone else has it. My friends timeline is like a highlight reel of their best bits.
> Russia is far worse than the US when it comes to rights
To be fair year after year the US fails to cover itself in glory when it comes to rights itself.
Abuse of PoW's in Iraq, extraordinary rendition, seemingly indefinite imprisonment without charge in Guantanamo, access to call records and internet usage of citizens without a warrant. I wonder about these Drone strikes which the US seems to able to do in any non-western sovereign country.
It has reached a point where you wonder what will happen next.
The mystifying thing is how passionate US citizens are about their right to vote. The massive rally's etc etc. And yet it seems politicians are almost always guided by big campaign contributors than the need's of the people they represent.
I am somewhat stumped by the faux-rage of the press and politicians. It seems that the US shitting over civil liberties isn't even a story. Instead it is all about Snowden and Russia. Realistically if a Russian named Snowdenoff fled to the US after doing something similar to Russia there is no way the US would have handed him over.
America has done some really crappy things over the years, but you know about them, they come out and get reported.
In Russia the journalists who report these things get killed, those who speak out get assassinated overseas or put on trial for things they haven't done (as opposed to the act of leaking). Political opponents of the regime who announce their intention to run for office get hounded into exile.
America it at least a democracy, the public just don't care enough to change it. In Russia the people can't change it.
Because you can engage voters to change their minds in the USA, or indeed just engage politicians, whereas in Russia such activity can get you murdered, sent to prison (often a death sentence anyway) or exiled.
Look at things like SOPA where a large userbase was motivated to spread the word, tech companies got involved and the public were informed enough to convince politicians to change.
Will SOPA ever come back in a minimally modified form? It it really dead? Or will they just find another way to ram it through? Is there a real victory? Are the politicians now going to leave it well alone? Or will the media money eventually get its way?
Even here in Europe, referendums are routinely ignored. So, have a referendum on EU membership, and if its a result to leave, you get another referendum.... until we vote "correctly".
I think the broader point is to use a single language over as many of your system's as possible. Rather than just "Python is the answer to everything."
Obviously there are benefits and drawbacks to such an idea. Benefit is every programmer you hire can be a Python developer. Should make meetings fairly simple. You need to worry less about ensuring you have an adequate number of x developers to maintain the system which relies on language x.
Obviously the drawback is that Python, like any other language, isn't the best choice for everything. To get round such inefficiencies Dropbox choose to buy larger machines.
I'd rather not need a computer at home and work (and all the syncing issues that entails).
Currently I work from two fixed locations and also from home. If I can just have a fixed screen, keyboard and mouse there and take this around with all my current working stack ready to go that'd be ace!
You would not believe how many of my managers complain to us about how heavy and uncouth their laptop is to carry around. We actually had one guy apply for workplace compensation after his back caused him problems - he blamed it on carrying around a laptop + case.
I think you'd be surprised at the uptake of this kind of device in the corporate world if it was marketed correctly.
You're never somewhere where there's a TV screen with HDMI?
A bluetooth keyboard + HDMI cable can fit in my pocket.
EDIT: And part of the point is for this to eventually replace your desktops too, so you don't need to have everything spread out over multiple computers.
> ... there won't be a screen available unless you lug one around
Interface with google glass or use a pico laser projector. MYO or one of the myriad one-handed keyboards (eg Twiddler, Kee4, CyKey) for input. It's not going to be easy at first but I'm not keen on spending the rest of my life sitting down in a stuffy office.
I have docking stations for my Thinkpad. I also have my Nexus phone in my pocket.
What I want is a pocket-sized device which has multiple docking stations for various purposes:
0. Baseline phone for being a phone or small computing tasks.
1. Tablet for couch-surfing or communal content sharing.
2. Laptop for on the go larger computing tasks.
3. Desktop for long work sessions.
It would be great if stages 2 and 3 could also include additional computing, graphics and memory resources.
I have screens at home, and I have computers at home, but I'd be happy to get one of these so I can do stuff in the garden, or at a coffee shop, and then carry on at home.
Some people just want a tiny computer for a bit of email, a bit of social media and some cat videos, with the occasional office document creation and reading.
Personnaly I would use it at school, that way I can avoid to bring my laptop at school. I don't like to use school computers for any development because it's not my environment (configurations, git, etc..). That way I already have screen/keyboard/mouse but I also have my own environment which will never change.
I wonder the same thing. But I would be really interested in trying a small Mac Air sized screen/keyboard shell that had a port that I could slide such a phone in to. Sort of a portable docking station.
Reminds me of my old Motorola Atrix [1]. It had a laptop docking shell that booted a restricted version of Ubuntu alongside an instance of Android. It was totally cool, and everyone that saw it was amazed. However, actual usage was another story. Tegra2 just wasn't powerful enough to drive Ubuntu and Android concurrently in a usable manner.
Our code runs fairly well on the Nexus 4 today, and through much dogfooding, we've learned that RAM is the biggest limiting factor in performance. So when (if?!) Edge ships with 4GB of RAM, the desktop mode will fly.
Why not? Right now, I basically always have my iPhone with me. Often, I also have an 11" Air with me. But there's a lot of redundancy between the two, I have to keep them in sync, and tether the phone to the Air when off WiFi. This sounds like a credible solution to eliminate that redundancy and it wouldn't mean carrying an extra device.
Honestly, I'd probably fund this project right now if they had a tablet or notebook docking accessory in the plan.
So you don't go places where there might be a display already? No hotels with a TV already in the room, never go to a friends or relatives who might have a screen that you could borrow?
Keyboards with touchpads are available in sizes ranging from no larger than the phone. And if this type of device takes off, you might see hotels etc. provide keyboards and mice in the rooms at least in places catering to business travellers.
Current Rift dev kit owner here, the device isn't really what you would expect. The screen connects to a box that then does either DVI or HDMI out as well as USB for the head tracking. This box also needs separate power from an outlet. So its not really ready for a mobile experience.
Additionally resolution just isn't there yet. They're currently testing better screens for the consumer version but its all a matter of what they can source (as with the dev kit they had to move from a 5in to 7in screen due to sourcing problems).
Finally, before I received mine I had thought about using it similarly to how you are. However I've come to realize that strapping a TV to you face changes up the interaction enough that you sometime have to rethink fundamental design concepts about the UI.
Random Rift tidbit: The people behind the [Minecrift](https://github.com/mabrowning/minecrift) are doing some awesome work and its development is a great example of people learning how to adapt a game to VR. Plus the ascetics of minecraft makes the pixelation of the Rift less noticeable.
Two things strike me though:
Shots off of Justine's stomach. The best response I have heard from a girl in a mixed group when asked to do it was "I will do it if you do it first." It turns it from another girl doing shots on the bar to a weird group activity which is silly, not sexual. Obviously a straight up no would suffice, who cares what a drunk person says?
The second thing was how it went down. During a recent stag do a random girl walked over to one of our group and kissed him randomly without warning or anything. The guy pushed her away, recoiled in horror and said with a look of despair "she - put - her - tongue - in - my - mouth!?"
We laughed but seriously, we knew it wasn't consensual, if she went back in we would have pulled her away.
I feel this is the correct response to being jumped on. This or a loud no.
Not reciprocating, then questioning whether the wife would mind is not a no. Standing there awkwardly waiting for it to be over does not convey stop and it doesn't give friends an opportunity to come to the rescue.
Without a no the lack of participation can suggest hesitation. Asking about the wife perhaps reinforces this. "Oh so thats why you are slow getting into it. Don't worry about her." From the outside the lack of no and look of awkwardness could suggest this isn't something you do very often. Not that you want it to stop.
Justine is not at fault in the slightest. Joe forced himself on her. That said I wonder how differently things would have been if she straight up said no or even pushed him away.